Dating someone four years younger
Although the idea of a "cougar" who dates much younger men has a certain cultural cachet, being a woman in your twenties who simply chooses a partner who's a bit younger is often viewed as weird, desperate, or deluded — basically, anything besides what it is, which is totally normal.People have a much easier time, it seems, getting on board with the idea of a woman taking a younger partner for purely sexual reasons than they do with the idea of a woman in a serious relationship with a younger partner.I recently found out that a musician I have a crush on is 21. However, women dating younger men isn’t weird to me – my dad is younger than my mum, my uncle is way younger than my aunty and my brother is younger than his wife. Me and my best friends have a running joke that we always fancy hot, younger guys (We’ll always have a thing for fresh-faced indie boys, God love ’em). ) and thought I’d increase my age limit to 39 to see if there were any silver foxes about. You could smell the desperation through the phone – it was like they had their mum breathing down their necks asking for grandkids.Which is why it baffles me that it’s always assumed that it’s only men who like their partners young. (I’ve always had a thing for Patrick Dempsey.) Holy. ‘I’ve dated older guys who have gone in way too hard way too soon with talking about getting married,’ agrees Katherine, 25. It didn’t take long before I moved my maximum age back down to 34.Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite. ‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’ On top of this, the older guys had no chat. My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.Why have we let our gender be tarnished with this lie for so long? When some girls were having sex, I hadn’t even started my period.Raff, 27 (who’s in a longterm relationship with someone a year and a half older) points out a major flaw in some older woman/younger man partnerships, from his previous experience.‘Women have a biological clock that they need to live by if they want to have kids and stuff,’ he told uk.
I once got with a 37-year-old who had absolutely no idea what he was doing down there.And it ends up not working.’ This is a very valid point, but if you’re a woman who’s pretty chill about getting married and popping out babies (hi), then there’s no problem. No-one bats an eyelid if a male dates a younger female, yet a woman goes even a few years below her own age and she’s suddenly a thirsty ‘cougar‘?If you connect with someone, you connect with someone.The 20-somethings all had way more of a clue than him.Plus, research says that women hit their sexual prime later than men,so you may well be doing yourself a favour going younger.