Dating too soon after divorce kids
I do not believe that divorce has to be nasty and bitter especially when there are little ones involved.We have both been very amicable, helpful and respectful about the whole situation. We established who gets the kids when and it's been working out great.He picked up the kids as agreed and I was to get them back thurs after work.I always call to say goodnight to my babies about 8pm, I called but they had fallen asleep early, so my ex started trying to convince me to let him com over for sex and I refused(he tries this everyday) plus I had my friend over!My family adores him, so they are not very happy with me right now.oh and I forgot to add, he's raised my oldest child since she was 5, she's 13 now and he has always claimed to be her dad, her biological stopped seeing her 9 yrs ago and is completely out of the pic, and she sees my ex as her true dad, well now because of this situation he says he no longer wants anything to do with my child, and that he now has 3 daughters not 4, pretty hurtful stuff.
I know it's only been a month, but am I just supposed to wait around until my EX is ready for me to have friends?? My ex is now being very bitter with me, he's told me he will not be helping me financially so don't count on it, he's contacted all of my family and told them I was "cheating" on him and that that was the real reason I left him (not true) and that we walked in on me!However my ex is beyond upset with me and accuses me of leaving him for this friend, which is so not the case, he is hurt and feels betrayed by me and feels that I am being unfaithful to him, we are separated!!I don't know how much more clear I need to be that I am done with him.we were sitting on the couch, not even together, fully dressed! does he have the right to just run into my home and confront people?if he's not ready to let go but I have, does that give him a right to say im cheating on him and make it seem that way with his family?
I have a BIG dilemma going on, I'll try to sum it up as much as I can.