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I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.There were several side-effects to this, aside from a busier schedule, that make me now believe this is the best way to approach online dating: 1.It always felt like starting all over and was always painful.Once I even continued to date a girl just to avoid “starting over”.Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.This freedom allowed me to finally be honest with myself about what I was looking for.I stopped defending the poor qualities my dates had and started moving on.
Even when things didn’t work out and my date was not interested in seeing me again, at least I knew we just weren’t a match instead of wondering if I had only done “better” would she have liked me? Improved Odds If you believe that you can get along with out there then dating few people could work for you.I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.To put it another way: imagine there is a room with 100 singles of the opposite sex in it and in this imaginary room there is one person who is a “match” to you.
Using my original method for dating (one girl a month at best), my odds of meeting that special someone were very low and theoretically it would have taken a long time to meet her. The issue here is the length of time only identifies part of the problem as it assumes that the “match” won’t move on to something else: a new job that she wouldn’t have been taken had she been in a relationship, settling for someone just to not be alone, etc.